I started this blog last year to talk about small improvements to make my life and the life of my family better. Everyday, we are inundated by images in the media of the perfect lifestyle. Whether it's home decorating, cooking, or raising kids.
I'm currently pregnant with my third child, and even there, media tells us how to have the perfect pregnancy. The cute pregnancy clothes, decorating nurseries, cooking healthy food, etc.
Of course, all of this is meant to spur consumerism. Someone wants us to buy stuff, whether it is the cute maternity clothes, books, or furniture. We need to realize that having these things don't mean we'll have the ideal delivery or baby. More importantly, it won't mean that we'll be happy.
I have to remind myself this. When I was pregnant with my first and second, our family financial situation was very different. Single incomes, starting new jobs, and grad school. This time, with God's blessing, we are in a different financial situation. But at the end of the day, I just want to eat mac-and-cheese and sleep. In my mind, I want to be the perfect mother, engaging my kids throughout the day all while with all my make-up done, perfect nails, and cute maternity clothes. Most days, after homework, I let them watch t.v. while I sleep on the couch and then letting them play outside when the weather cools down. As far as dress, I wear loose workout clothes.
I feel guilty about it.I feel like I should be doing something more, but yesterday at the Y, something made me change my mind.
I'm taking prenatal fitness classes there (which I highly recommend to anyone). After yoga, we have a discussion. This discussion was on emotions, and the speaker talked about how it's okay during our pregnancy to just sleep and rest. The statement gave me an aha moment. I know, it seems obvious, but in a society where we always are encouraged to be productive and redoing our house, it was a nice reminder.
So, I'm reassessing my situation and trying to focus on being content. Yesterday, I was up and on the go, running 100 errands,. Today, I dropped the kids off at school and took a long nap. After my daughter's preschool ended, we went to the gym and I walked on the treadmill for 30 minutes, followed by story-time at the library. Now dinner is simmering on the stove (lamb tagine), homework done and I can hear the kids playing outside. I might do some laundry tonight, but then again, I might not and that's okay.
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